How Not to Let Your Family Squeeze

Jeff Motske, CFP®

October 8, 2018

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Your Financial Future Family ties are amazing. These connections, based in DNA, history and genuine care, can prompt many to support their loved ones through times of need, be it emotional, physical and even financial. It is natural to want to support your family, but the players involved can double (or even triple or quadruple in cases of blended families), increasing the financial strain. Since these familial situations can snowball quite quickly, I urge you to focus first on your own financial independence and be sure not to let your parents and your children squeeze your financial future. While many hate to be a burden on their family, it’s actually quite common for people to financially assist other family members. According to Ameritrade’s Financial Support Study, one-fifth of Americans are Financial Supporters, meaning they provide financial support to a parent and/or an adult child.1 A survey conducted by GoBankingRates found that 63 percent of children plan to financially support their parents in some way once they retire.2 On the other end, parents are also financially supporting their grown children. Per Financial Planning OWS, 24% are helping with rent and 39% are paying cell phone bills.3

My primary advice is to always pay yourself first. Be sure to establish a healthy emergency fund and contribute to your retirement. It’s similar to what you hear on airplanes about placing the oxygen mask on yourself before placing it on others. You need to be sure that you are fiscally secure before you provide for those who are financially struggling. This is very sound, logical advice, which can be difficult to follow once emotions come into play.

Most of the decisions I see my clients struggle with are when the emotional and the financials are at odds. When your daughter wants to go to that expensive, out-of-state college that you didn’t save enough for, it’s tempting to try to make it work, whatever means necessary. Or perhaps your son is going through a costly divorce, and the only way you feel you can support him and ensure you see your grandkids is to borrow from your retirement to hire him a good lawyer. These are the moments when you need to be able to tell your child and yourself, “No”. In most cases, there are other options and alternatives in place. They may not be the dream situation, but they will still get the job done. Don’t sacrifice your future for your child’s dream, no matter how compelling. Don’t let emotions cloud good judgment.

On the other end of the spectrum, is a harsh reality. When dealing with parents who may not have planned sufficiently or are in the midst of a financial crisis, be sure that you are communicating as one adult to another. If possible, you may want to tackle those financial conversations early. Some of these difficult financial conversations with parents are tied to medical issues, so be sure to discuss before physical situations become dire.

When you find yourself in the midst of these difficult situations, please don’t forget about your support system. Your financial advisor can act as an unbiased referee in moments of disagreement or emotional struggle. They will likely remember the important financial issues that may slip your mind and will be ruled by numbers rather than nostalgia. At the moments when you need a pragmatic perspective to shine through the cloud of emotions, a trusted financial advisor can be invaluable.

In a time where many people find themselves part of the Sandwich Generation, taking on financial burdens can seem inevitable. Yet, so much can be avoided and accomplished when you act in advance. Start chatting with mom and dad while they’re still in good physical and financial health. Start saving for colleges as early as possible. When you’re proactive, you can prepare. When you’re reactive, people and finances can take a hit.

Understanding Taxes and Retirement

Let's take a moment to talk about retirement.. It's not merely a phase of life; it's a significant transition that requires meticulous planning and foresight. One of the critical aspects to consider is how might taxes have an impact on your financial plan. A comprehensive understanding of tax implications is essential for effective wealth management, especially when it comes to safeguarding your nest egg from potential tax liabilities.

Wealth Management Strategies

Engaging in astute tax and wealth management strategies is paramount in preserving and growing your retirement corpus. By exploring various tax-advantaged retirement accounts and consulting with professional tax advisors, you can better prepare for the tax implications that come with retirement. This proactive approach not only keeps your financial plan on track but also paves the way for a more secure retirement.

Smart Retirement Options

As you delve deeper into the retirement planning process, exploring smart retirement options becomes a priority. These options could range from choosing the right retirement accounts, investing in tax-efficient funds, to exploring annuity products that provide a steady income stream. The aim is to build a robust financial portfolio that aligns with your retirement goals while minimizing tax liabilities, thereby ensuring your savings not only last but grow throughout your retirement.

Real-world Case Studies

Transitioning into Retirement: Curt from De Pere, WI, started strategizing for his retirement alongside his wife after lengthy careers in public service, with the assistance of a Financial Planner.
Early Retirement Evaluation: Stephen and Nicole evaluated an early retirement package to manage taxes efficiently during their transition into retirement.
Career Change and Retirement Planning: Susan and Chris transitioned from high-profile music industry jobs to retirement, achieving their goals with the aid of First Wealth.
Long-term Savings Strategy: Jim and Cathy’s story illustrates the importance of long-term savings and debt management, having saved $750,000 in a 401(k) and $300,000 in savings over their working years.

The Bright Side of Retirement

Planning for retirement isn't solely about numbers and finances; it's also about envisioning a happy, fulfilling life post-retirement. Infusing humor and a positive outlook towards this life-altering phase can make the journey enjoyable. A funny, happy retirement is indeed a product of sound financial planning paired with an optimistic outlook.

Key Retirement Statistics

Gender Disparity: Only 17% of women feel on track to meet their financial goals compared to 26% of men.
Retirement Account Investments: Americans had invested $6.8 trillion in 401(k)s and $12.5 trillion in IRAs as of the first quarter of 2023.

Professional Insights

Professional insights add another layer of credibility to the smart retirement planning narrative. Jim Barnash, a Certified Financial Planner with over four decades of experience, emphasizes the importance of meticulous retirement planning. Understanding complex financial concepts such as the ‘Sequence of Returns Risk' is also crucial as per experts' advice. Moreover, strategic moves endorsed by financial experts can significantly enhance the possibility of retiring as a millionaire, as discussed in a recent piece on Nasdaq.

Planning for the Unexpected

To further aid in your retirement planning, establishing an emergency fund is advisable. An emergency fund serves as a financial buffer, ensuring you have the resources to cover unexpected costs. Having three to six months' worth of living expenses in your emergency fund, which can be adjusted based on your unique financial situation and risk tolerance, is a common goal provided by financial planners.

Leveraging Modern Technology

Lastly, as the digital age continues to evolve, leveraging modern technologies can also play a significant role in your retirement planning process. With the aid of new tools, you can access personalized financial advice, explore various retirement scenarios, and receive insights that empower you to make informed decisions towards a secure and happy retirement. These tools can aid in personalizing your retirement planning process, offering insights and scenarios for better financial decision-making. We recommend speaking to a Financial Planner for a full rundown.

Conclusion

Smart retirement planning is a multi-faceted endeavor that demands a blend of financial acumen, forward-thinking, and a zest for life. By embracing a holistic approach towards retirement planning, you not only pursue your financial future but also set the stage for a joyful and fulfilling retirement. The journey towards a secure retirement begins with the right financial planning, educating oneself on the financial landscape, and making informed decisions that align with your values and retirement goals.

Instead of spending years mastering finances on your own, partnering with those who have already traversed the financial landscape can fast-track your financial success. A dedicated financial advisor from Trilogy Financial Services can work with you to make your money work smarter and harder, simplifying the financial intricacies that have been keeping you up at night.

You can schedule a no-strings-attached portfolio review today and embark on a path to financial success guided by professional advisors. For more information and to schedule your consultation, visit www.trilogyfs.com/yourmoneyamplified. With the right knowledge and professional guidance, the journey of investing becomes an exciting venture towards achieving financial security and growth. This way, you're not just dreaming of an ideal retirement but actively working towards making it a reality.

*There is no guarantee that a diversified portfolio will enhance overall returns or outperform a non-diversified portfolio. Diversification does not protect against market risk.

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4 Ways to Make The Best Use of Your Tax Refund

Darcy Borella, CFP®

February 1, 2018

If you're one of the millions of Americans who received, or are expecting to receive, a tax refund, you are probably trying to decide how to spend it. The average refund this year is around $3,000, a nice chunk of change to throw at one of your goals. Rather than impulse buying that new Apple iWatch or splurging at Sephora, make the best use of this windfall by putting it towards improving your financial situation.

Build Up An Emergency Fund

Some very good friends of mine woke up recently to find that their downstairs had flooded from a burst pipe on the second level. They had to rip up their hard wood floors, replace furniture, and even replace some of the walls. Luckily, their bedroom and their child's nursery was spared, but THIS type of unexpected event is exactly why you need an emergency fund. If they didn't have cash readily available in a savings account, they might have been tempted to put charges for repairs and replacements on a high-interest credit card. Depending on your situation, you should ideally have 3-6 months of regular expenses in the bank. Use your tax refund to start, or top off, your rainy day fund.

Pay Off Debt

The power of compounding interest can work in your favor when investing, but it can also cause debt to grow faster than you might think. Credit card companies apply their interest fees to the amount that you owe initially. But every month (and sometimes every DAY!) after that, the compounding interest will apply to the principal, as well as the previous month's interest. If you want to apply the snowball method, apply your refund to the smallest account you can close out. Alternatively, you can use the “Avalanche” method, and put your refund towards the card with the highest interest rate. Paying off the smallest account might feel good, but if you have double digit interest accruing on a card, get that debt paid off as fast as you can. Take the windfall from your refund and put it towards cleaning up your personal balance sheet.

Fund an Individual Retirement Account

IRAs are one of the greatest savings vehicles you can have for retirement. These vehicles allow you to invest in the market outside of any employer-sponsored plans (like a 401K) with tax-free growth (no capital gains!) until retirement. There are two types of IRAs that are available to the general public: Roth IRAs and Traditional IRAs. With a Roth, you contribute post-tax dollars and don't have to pay income taxes on any distributions in retirement. There is, however, a phase-out limit based on income. With a traditional IRA, you do pay income taxes on distributions in retirement. However, contributions made could be tax-deductible for that tax year (contributions made from January 1st of the current year through April 15th of the following year). As of now, individuals can contribute up to $5,500 per year ($6,500 if you’re age 50 or older), or your taxable compensation for the year, if your compensation was less than this dollar limit.

Monetize Other Financial Goals

Planning to take a big family vacation to Disneyland in 5 years? Dreaming of owning a house but need to build up a sizable down payment? Wondering how you are going to pay for your pre-teen's college tuition? If you have any intermediate goals (prior to retirement), consider opening a brokerage account to help your money grow more efficiently. Statistically, the stock market has more up years than down, and historically, has recovered from those down years relatively quickly. If you have time on you side, consider monetizing these goals by participating in the market at a level that is in line with your risk tolerance.

But If You Must, Splurge…A Little

If you just can't help it, take a small percentage of your refund to treat yourself. Whether it's a nice dinner, a manicure, or checking out a movie with your spouse, take a minute to blow off some steam. Keep this amount small though as the path to wealth is paved with good decisions. Start making good habits today to delay gratification and secure a financial safety net in your future.

How Not to Let Your Family Squeeze

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